Kenya Madison, BeWell PBC stewardship council member and senior director of Healthier Delray Beach, shares how to manage the holidays with intention.

As someone who has struggled with anxiety, I have learned that many of life’s stressors are those we put on ourselves. I have been blessed to meet people who introduced to me to meditation, the ability to quiet the mind and really listen to my thoughts and understand how they influence my behavior and my life.

The holidays are an especially important time to be understood, be intentional, set boundaries and take care of ourselves. Here are five lessons that I have learned to help you—and those around you—have a happier, healthier holiday season.

1. Know what YOU want.  Set your intention for how you want to experience the holidays. Do you want to feel happy and festive? Focus on the things that make you feel that way.

2. Communicate.  Help your loved ones understand your intentions and your limitations and take time to understand theirs.

3. Respect differences. Be understanding of those who celebrate differently—or maybe not at all—without making them feel ostracized.

4. Set boundaries.  Stay in control of eating, sleeping and spending. Be mindful of what you want to do or give that is meaningful rather than overindulging.

5. Say no with grace.  Are you accepting an invitation for fear of disappointing someone?  Don’t sacrifice your own wellbeing to make others happy.  Decline with a kind note or call.